A few months ago, I was whining to my Facebook friends about not having time to read. “Why don’t you listen to podcasts when you can’t hold a book to read?” someone suggested helpfully. At the time I hadn’t embraced the podcast lifestyle but as soon I downloaded Stitcher on my Android phone, I was hooked. When I’m at work, on the train, or at home doing my chores, I put on my earphones and listen to some of the most interesting shows I’ve ever heard. It’s like reading a good book or having a lively discussion with your bff. Here are 3 of the top podcasts on my playlist…
Best for: Motivating you to live to your full potential
Why you’ll probably love it too: If you want to hear about people who have done great things with their lives, go ahead and put a star on this podcast in your playlist; I promise that you’ll be coming back for more and more doses of motivation. Lewis Howes delivers top notch interviews with contemporary greats from all professions. He is passionate, curious, and energetic; each interview is unique but all of them are equally informative and engaging.
My best episode so far: Tracy McMillan on Why Relationships Are Meant to Trigger Us
Best for: Answering questions about human behaviour
Why you’ll probably love it too: I love learning about what makes us behave the way we do and if you read my blog regularly, you most likely do too. This podcast examines the underlying forces of human psychology (ideas, beliefs, assumptions and emotions) that create our individual and collective realities. There are several behaviours that may come across to others as ‘odd’; Invisibalia attempts to explain these oddities through real-life stories and scientific evidence. My favorite thing about this podcast is its exploration of outliers- the people who do not fall under the ‘normal’ categories of society. The podcast content may be nerdy but it’s anything but boring. It’s like watching a thrilling documentary inside the theater of your mind.
My best episode so far: How to Become Batman
Best for: Exploring the millions of ways love affects us
Why you’ll probably love it too: These are short essays read out by notable celebrities and it explores all the joys and tribulations that come with love. What is most striking about this series to me is that there are no complicated plots of Shakespearean proportions-just regular people like you and me whose lives were changed forever because of this powerful emotion. Whether you are newly in-love, a veteran lover, divorced, widowed; whether you are a close range parent or a distant parent; or whether you are celebrating love or grieving loss, this podcast makes you realise that you are not alone in trying to make it through life with your heart intact.
My best episode so far: In Darkness And In Light
How about you-do you have any podcasts that you enjoy listening to?
Ahmed Juma Bhalo is a Kiswahili anchor and reporter at K24 TV in Kenya. A rising star in the Kenya news business and highly regarded as the next Ahmed Darwesh (deceased), Ahmed reveals that his success didn’t come to him overnight. Here is his story.
You are a natural in front of the camera and it almost seems that you were born to be an anchor. How did you get started in broadcasting and what influenced your love for media?
Throughout school, my teachers and classmates would always compliment me on my reading. I was that kid who was chosen every day to read the set books in front of the class while my classmates and teachers listened on. I remember when I was in Form 2 in Khamis High School (Mombasa), I got a bit too confident and volunteered to present the sports news in front of the entire school. It was a tormenting experience for me.
That’s a scary experience for most kids. You must have been shaking quite badly.
Yes, I thought I wouldn’t make it through the presentation.
How long did you do that for? How long did you present sports to the school?
Fortunately, I did it only once. I transferred to Rasul High School a year later. At Rasul, my schoolmates used to report incidents to me, and I would record myself reporting the incidents on my camera. I think that’s when my love of journalism developed. After I graduated from high school, I used to wear a borrowed suit from my neighbour, hold a pretend microphone against my chest and imitate newscasters. I really did it for the laughs. The people in my neighbourhood loved my performances. I also had a Youtube Channel where I uploaded my “anchoring” videos purely for entertainment’s sake.
Your first stint as a professional anchorman was at K24 TV.
Yes. I also did field reporting.
How was your first job like?
K24 actually hired me as a trainee when I was still a student at the University of Nairobi. That was on December 22, 2011. One week later, I anchoring live on air. It was excited but I was also very nervous.
How long did you do this for?
I worked at K24 for two years before being laid off during a mass retrenchment on August 8th, 2013.
That must have been devastating. How did the redundancy affect you?
It affected me both financially and psychologically. My faith, however, helped tremendously during this difficult time; I was always taught to be grateful for all circumstances, both good and bad. Everything happens according to God’s will and my redundancy was what was fated for me. Deep in my heart, I knew that losing my job was not the end of the world. Nikajiamsha, nikapangusa magoti (I got up and dusted my knees). I knew that this was all part of a journey and that being jobless wasn’t my final destination.
That’s an amazing attitude.
Alhamdulillah (Thanks be to God)
During this difficult time of uncertainty, did you reach out to any support system? What were your coping strategies?
I just shook off that feeling of despair and refused to let my employment status define me. I was young and I wanted to earn a halal living. When I relocated back to Mombasa, I became a small business owner selling and delivering chicken to local residents. Those were my Kuku Pap days.
That’s one thing I admire about you. You didn’t think that selling chicken was beneath you. You made a living selling chicken and you did it with a smile on your face. I saw your Facebook adverts. Your work ethic earned you many supporters and admirers along the way.
Yes, I did get a lot of support from a lot of people. Some of them would come from as far away as Nyali to come buy chicken from me in town. That’s almost a 45-minute commute. There were many butcheries along the way but what they wanted was to support me and my business. I felt appreciated. I will never forget that feeling.
I sold chicken but I kept my passions alive through citizen journalism.
Are you referring to your wildly popular Kiswahili Facebook series, Viumbe vya Mombasa?
Yes. A lot of people followed it. It was similar to the ‘Humans of New York’ blog, but I interviewed the people on the streets of Mombasa.
Who was your most memorable kiumbe (human)?
I’ll never forget Mzee Abdallah Alwy Al Ahdaly. He was a 68 year old man who used to sell labania, a local sweet. Many men of his age in Mombasa are usually self-retired. They sit at home all day and get taken care of their children. Mzee rejected this lifestyle- he chose to keep on working. He was proud of himself. There are thousands of young men and women in Mombasa who are jobless but they are extremely picky with their jobs. They’d rather waste their lives idling at home all day than sell on the streets. Mzee al Ahdaly’s personal philosophy was to always earn his own money using his own labour. He insisted that the youth need to develop a less picky mentality towards work.
Did you sell chicken for a long time?
No. A few months after my relocation to Mombasa, I was offered a job at KBC as a Kiswahili reporter. I did that for a year and then moved back to K24 to serve as a Kiswahili news anchor.
You are persistent with your dreams. What does persistence mean to you?
It’s about being focused and knowing what you want.
I love this.
Tell me more about your family dynamic. You come from a family of cultural and academic giants. How did your family’s fame affect you?
I come from an interesting family. Some of my uncles were journalists, ambassadors, and historians. My father, Juma Bhalo, was a taarab musician who was world famous for his singing. My love for KiSwahili was greatly influenced by him. When I first started my TV job, I used to call myself Ahmed Bhalo. Before long I changed it to Ahmed Juma Bhalo, it was an issue of reclaiming my father-son identity. I wanted to be known as the son of THE Juma Bhalo.
I was also greatly inspired by my uncle, the great poet Ustadh Ahmad Nassir Juma Bhalo. He was the composer for most of my father’s songs; his command of the Kiswahili language is profound.
In what way did your parents inspire you? What’s the most important thing that they have contributed to your success?
My mom is, and will always be my number one fan. She has always been supportive of my career choice. Initially, my dad was against me pursuing journalism. He wanted me to be an advocate for reasons I have never understood. However I stood my ground and insisted on journalism, and he eventually supported my career dreams. He supported me financially and paid for my university education. I am where I am today because of what he sacrificed for me. Alhamdulillah, I am a proud son of two beautiful souls.
You obviously enjoy doing your current job. Where would you want to be in 5 years time?
I am going back to school for my Masters, InshaAllah. There are other plans in the works but wouldn’t want to reveal them now. Tukutane (let’s meet) in 5 years.
I can’t wait.
What advice would you give to youngsters wanting to do what you do?
Journalism is a passion and a calling. If you have the passion for it, just soldier on. It is a great profession, I am living my dream.
Journalism is self-made. Would you agree with that statement? You have to go after the stories and create your own brand…isn’t it?
You are what you mould yourself to be. Your brand is in your hands.
Absolutely. Here’s one last question to conclude this interview: What is your definition of success?
Success to me is about having three things: peace of mind, a family that supports each other; and a good relationship with your Creator.
THANK YOU, AHMED!
You can find Ahmed on TV every weekend hosting the Kiswahili news at K24 or follow him on Facebook.
(All photos were used by permission from Ahmed’s Facebook page)
“The word ‘passion’ is often tossed around casually as something necessary for great work. What’s ignored is that the root of passion means ‘to suffer.’ When you are passionate about something, it means you are willing if necessary- to suffer a bit on behalf of it, because you care so deeply. Great contributors have discovered a productive passion, or an outcome that they are so committed to that it fuels and animates their work.”
The Accidental Creative
A few years back, I was sitting in the car with my wife at a car park talking. We were puzzled and confused, excited and bewildered, and desperately trying to make sense of a certain event that left us questioning what life was all about.
In the midst of all our intense discussion, I suddenly felt a presence of someone outside the car window. As I turned to face the window, an old Sikh gentleman wearing a big turban and long white beard stood there staring at me with a big smile on his face. He had appeared out of nowhere.
I was surprised at this intruder but I smiled back at him anyway; I was keen to know what he was upto. In my city, you hardly see a Sikh out and about begging, so I couldn’t help but wonder what this old man was up to.
“Hello Sir. How are you?” I said. “Hello” he replied back. He continued to stand and he continued to smile. He lowered his face and looked into my window.
” Sir !” he said. “Today is good”
He stopped talking and started smiling again. “Today is good, Today is good” he kept repeating the words. Before I could say anything back, he walked off.
I turned to my left to face my wife and all I could see was her big green eyes glowing back at me with disbelief. She had the most excited face I have ever seen.
” Whaaaaaat?! Whaat was all that about?” I asked.
“Signs ! Signs ! Signs!” She answered excitedly back.
“What signs?” I asked.
“That old man right there – who is now walking away- that is all signs. Did you hear what he said to you? Out of nowhere, he came to you. He left all he was doing, and left all the other people in this car park, and came straight to you and to you alone just to tell you “TODAY IS GOOD”. Look at him, he isn’t approaching anyone else. He is walking away into oblivion.If that is not a sign, then I dont know what is. What that man is trying to you is that there is no better day than today, meaning you have to live in the present. What else is there to be said?”
After that we looked at each other with big smiles on our faces, sighing with relief and gratitude.
A few years down the line as I sit on my desk remembering that event, I can’t help but to smile and agree with what the old Sikh man told me: TODAY IS GOOD.
His message was short, but it was loud and clear. If you want to do something with your life, do not wait for tomorrow. Do you know why? Because TODAY IS GOOD.
Fall in love, get a new job, move to another city, conceive, get a hair cut, go for Hajj, travel the world; do whatever that is good for you and for humanity. Do it, do it today.
If you are not willing to do it today, then you are not going to do it tomorrow, because whatever excuse you have today, you’ll still have tomorrow.
Maybe you’ll have the same excuse 20 years from now, you may even leave this life holding on to the same excuse.
TODAY IS GOOD.
Post written by my husband, Anwar Bhalo. You can find him on Facebook (Anwar Juma Bhalo, he accepts all requests) or find him writing Swahili poetry on his blog: http://www.mashairiyakijanachabhalo.wordpress.com
Sister: Why can’t I find myself an author husband?
Sister: I’d be happy
Sister: He’d tell me stories, and tell our children stories
Sister: And I’d watch him on his typewriter, tapping away
Sister: I want him to use a typewriter
Sister: Not a laptop
Sister: Then we’d sit on the porch drinking virgin cocktails and listening to Astor Piazolla
Me: Why can’t you be the husband that you seek?
When life gives you lemons, turn that shizz upside down and go make something fabulous for yourself. Bake a cake topped with fresh flowers and rainbow sprinkles, learn a new language (Italian/Arabic/HTML, whatever), volunteer, write, travel, reacquaint yourself with The Higher Power, turn your balcony into a botanical garden, start a bookclub, sign up for a dance class, listen to amazing podcasts while you work out/cook/commute (I highly recommend ‘The School of Greatness’), immerse yourself in an adult coloring book, meet people- HUG LIFE.
The whole point is not to lose momentum when the going gets tough. Move-physically, mentally, spiritually, socially- constantly. Grow. Don’t sweep sadness under a rug and pretend that it’s not there-ignoring it will only make it bigger. Take it into your arms and whisper love and hope into its ears:
“We will get through this together”
Then take Inspiration to the side and politely request it to lead the way out of this tunnel of darkness. Create something beautiful from your struggles and never, ever, let a crisis go to waste.
No one deserves more love from you than yourself.
Have you ever seen the movie, The Bucket list, in which the characters played by Morgan Freeman and Jack Nicholson make a list of all the things they want to do before they die? I watched it a few years back and was hugely inspired by it. I made my own bucket list- a very long list of fantastically adventurous things to do, places to visit, new things to try – until reality hit me on the head and I realised that I didn’t have nearly enough money, time, or energy to do half the things on that list. This is my problem with bucket lists: more often than not, they focus on the failure of the things that I haven’t done and often leave me with a sense of anxiety for the future.
Instead of sharing with you a list of the things that I haven’t done, I’ll share with you a list of the things that I have accomplished in the last year or so. Welcome to my un-bucket list:
- Quit drinking soda-I challenged myself to quit soda right before I started fasting for Ramadhan last year. I’ve been drinking water and very occasionally, fruit juice. These days, I won’t drink soda even if it comes free with a meal. My clothes fit better and my skin feels more hydrated.
- Turned my wardrobe into a ‘joy’ only zone-I went through an intense purging period where I got rid of clothes that didn’t fit well, didn’t look good on me, or that I just flat-out didn’t like. I read about Marie Kondo‘s philosophy on surrounding yourself with only things that ‘spark’ joy, and I have slowly started cutting out the joyless stuff out of my life. Which brings me to….
- Picked my battles-This is another big un-bucket item. I try very hard to allocate my time and focus on people that fill my life with beauty and laughter, and really, really try to stay away from anything that will make me angry or sad. There are always the inevitable sad/angry situations of course, but I intentionally keep these to a necessary minimum. When confronted with a conflict, I tend to ask myself “will this matter in 5 years time?” and proceed accordingly.
- Explored my city-Remember how I mentioned that bucket lists often involve significant chunks of money, time, and energy? This specifically relates to travel. As a working mother with two active toddlers, I have little of those three resources to spare. I haven’t been travelling to many new countries, but I have been a very busy local tourist. I make a point of visiting a local attraction at least once every week. London has many fantastic free attractions like museums, parks, gardens, and events. I pack a lunch and snacks for the road, load up the kids in the stroller, and off we go to explore the city. It’s so much fun!
- Started a library-This is probably the biggest un-bucket item on my list. Since childhood, I’ve always enjoyed reading immensely (I talked about it in this blog post). One of my dreams was to start a library in the coastal region of Kenya, where literacy rates are so low compared to the rest of the country. In late 2014, this dream came true. The library started out with a collection of a few donated books and now has grown so big that we are running out of space! You can read more about the library here.
How about you? What’s in your un-bucket list?
“The human soul doesn’t want to be advised or fixed or saved. It simply wants to be witnessed — to be seen, heard and companioned exactly as it is. When we make that kind of deep bow to the soul of a suffering person, our respect reinforces the soul’s healing resources, the only resources that can help the sufferer make it through.”
The Gift of Presence, the Perils of Advice, by Parker Palmer